How are we programmed?
Scientific research has clearly demonstrated that before the age of 6 our brains are in a hypnotic state and have no memories or beliefs, that what we experience through our senses is downloaded and laid down as the foundations of our programmes that we will come to use to navigate the world.
With every experience your subconscious mind soaks in information like a sponge. It rejects nothing while we are young because it doesn’t have any pre-existing beliefs to contradict what it perceived. It simply accepts that all of the information it receives is true.
You can see why this becomes a problem later in life. Every time someone called you stupid, worthless, slow, lazy, or worse, your subconscious mind just stored the information away for reference. Then we use those beliefs to perceive who we are and what we can achieve, do or be as we grow up, limiting our potentials and contributing to our sense of who we are.
We use our beliefs to respond and make understandings of what we are experiencing from moment to moment throughout the day, this happens without much thought most of the time. We couldn’t think about every decision we made, we just wouldn’t have the time. So we trust that we have the correct information stored to keep us safe. This is fine until parts of our subconscious is triggered inappropriately to a situation and we respond in unhelpful ways.
For children and young people it’s challenging to navigate the world with their limited knowledge and experience so they are purely trusting their programming; the programming they have received through modeling of parents/caregivers behaviours, teaching from schools and the repetition and play from friends and media.
This can be a scary and confusing place to be for them, they will use behaviours that may not be positive but get a response and the more this is done the stronger the belief in this is ok becomes. They begin to act in ways that they perceive is necessary for them to be to fit the labels they are given.
Even though the subconscious mind holds all our memories and programming since childhood, we are not generally aware of them until we can bring them into our conscious mind. Tapping enables us to do this by allowing us to access pathways to our subconscious that bypass the conscious/logical part of our thinking.
When you’re experiencing a negative emotional state your brain goes on alert. It prepares your body to enter a fight-or-flight response, a response that is hardwired into our makeup to survive. Today the fight-or-flight response is rarely activated by a physical threat. Most of our fight-or-flight responses today are triggered internally.
For many of us, the internally generated stress response is triggered by a negative memory or thought that has its roots in past trauma or conditioned learning from childhood.But the stress response in the body takes the same form whatever the trigger.
Tapping on the appropriate meridian points helps to deactivate the brain’s alarm and sends a calming response to the body, and the amygdala recognises that it is safe.
When we are then in the calmer, safer place despite having a focus on a negative experience or feeling we can begin to change the way we perceive or give meaning to these emotions, the past events and the beliefs we hold. We begin to be able to see alternative, more positive ways of being with the emotions that had left us frozen in a state of fear, leaving our body in a state of stress.
Once you experience how quick and easy it is to change old, destructive thought patterns, you will see your life start to change before your eyes. Tapping is an effective and powerful way to remove the intensity of emotions around a memory, it won’t erase memories or cause more distress it will help you release the energy stuck in that place so you can move forward with ease and a more constructive view and belief of what the memory meant.
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